What’s something you’ve forgiven but haven’t forgotten?

An interesting question and one I have considered for most of my sentient life. I can’t imagine when or where I first heard the words ‘Forgive and Forget’ certainly long before I could form the the thought that it was a preposterous notion.

Forgiveness seems fairly cut and dried as a way of thinking. Either you do or you don’t. But forgetting seems like an act of madness. Why would anyone ever forget that someone or something had harmed them. Surely remembering is an act of learning from experience.

From my experience it is nearly always the perpetrator or instigator of bad deeds that comes up with the idea that the harmed individual should move on, forgive and forget. Not dwell on the sadness, pain or fury that has been caused.

Now my feelings on this or indeed my memory can fail me. I do sometimes forget stuff, not as an act of forgivness but because I can be forgetful. But the minute history repeats itself and the same person or same scenario are involved I remember all to easily.

Does forgiving but not forgetting alter the future?

Probably, but the future is likely to be all the better for it.